"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity" Quraan 24:26الْخَبِيثَاتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَالْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَاتِ وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ
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حدثنا محمد بن عمرو السواق البلخي حدثنا حاتم بن إسمعيل عن عبد الله بن مسلم بن هرمز عن محمد وسعيد ابني عبيد عن أبي حاتم المزني قال:
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله و سلم: إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فأنكحوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله و سلم: إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فأنكحوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد
This is a well known Hadith (reported sayings of the Prophet Mohamed) reported in Sunan al-Tirmidhi, it can be translated as:
If a person whom you accept his religion (level of his religiousness) and manners, proposes (for marriage) then accept him and don't reject him otherwise it would cause persecution and corruption in earth.
The Hadith emphasizes on the fact that the compatibility between the couple is the key for a successful marriage, particularly the religious and the personality compatibilities.
The Prophet, didn't say "a person whom is very religious/pious" he rather said "a person whom you accept his religion (level of his religiousness)" which means a person whom is compatible with the level of your religiousness. For instance, a person who is pious and not only does the compulsories (Wajibs) but strives to do the recommended (Mustahabs) and refrains from doing the undesirables (Markoohs) very likely won't get along with a person who barely does the compulsories (Wajibs) and refrain from doing the forbidden (Haram).
Then, he reminds us that the personality compatibility is not less important than the religious one, it's quite essential the couple have compatible personalities beside being religiously compatible. To be compatible in the manners, lifestyle, behaviour, habits .. You may have two good people but they don't get along at all, it's not because one of them is evil and the other is good or one is right and the other is wrong, they both could be good and right but they are simply incompatible.
Finally, the Prophet warns us that rejecting a suitable person would cause disastrous social problems as a consequence of that rejection! If a person finds the Halal/permissible way (marriage) unreachable, unsurprisingly the Haram/forbidden way might be considered an option!
If a person whom you accept his religion (level of his religiousness) and manners, proposes (for marriage) then accept him and don't reject him otherwise it would cause persecution and corruption in earth.
The Hadith emphasizes on the fact that the compatibility between the couple is the key for a successful marriage, particularly the religious and the personality compatibilities.
The Prophet, didn't say "a person whom is very religious/pious" he rather said "a person whom you accept his religion (level of his religiousness)" which means a person whom is compatible with the level of your religiousness. For instance, a person who is pious and not only does the compulsories (Wajibs) but strives to do the recommended (Mustahabs) and refrains from doing the undesirables (Markoohs) very likely won't get along with a person who barely does the compulsories (Wajibs) and refrain from doing the forbidden (Haram).
Then, he reminds us that the personality compatibility is not less important than the religious one, it's quite essential the couple have compatible personalities beside being religiously compatible. To be compatible in the manners, lifestyle, behaviour, habits .. You may have two good people but they don't get along at all, it's not because one of them is evil and the other is good or one is right and the other is wrong, they both could be good and right but they are simply incompatible.
Finally, the Prophet warns us that rejecting a suitable person would cause disastrous social problems as a consequence of that rejection! If a person finds the Halal/permissible way (marriage) unreachable, unsurprisingly the Haram/forbidden way might be considered an option!
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